Baby Steps

I am titling this blog baby steps, because I think this is my first baby step back to life. It has officially been 5 weeks, 1 day, and 4 hours since Kevin passed. I do not feel good, I do not feel great, I don’t even know what I feel anymore, but I know I am ready to finally begin moving forward in some way.

I’m thinking job, getting healthy, getting on my own two feet, finding some zen, and regaining my faith and communication with God. Some big goals, but all taken in baby steps.

I feel so blessed to be here in California with Deborah and her family. It is inspiring to be with someone from my weight loss support group (www.sparkpeople.com) IN PERSON and to see how we’ve both failed in this area, but how we’re both at a point past the traumas in our lives that we want to move forward.

It feels good to think about moving forward. When I think of Kev, I still am achy, and anxious and destroyed. But I also think of him, and I’m happy. He was amazing and wonderful and inspirational to me. He was the true love of my life-my soulmate, my everything. He made me so happy, and brought so many things into my life that I never would have imagined. And, despite how much I hate it, he has given me a brand new life now. I don’t know that I’m ready to accept that, but I am taking baby steps to move forward in this new life.

I really really really dont’ want this. I cannot stress that enough. I REALLY DO NOT WANT THIS NEW LIFE. But then again, I don’t have a choice in any of this. This decision for Kevin to pass was made long long before any of us were on this earth. I was given a gift of true love, and now I am given the gift of a new life.

So..I’m taking some baby steps. First things first-find some zen, find my soul again….then come home..and find a job.

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Brenda Sieglitz

Brenda Lee Sieglitz is an author and public speaker whose topics focus on travel, grief, and nature. Widowed in 2008 at 24 years of age, Brenda is an advocate for sarcoma patients, the widowed community, and conservation through her volunteerism with the National Park Service, Lancaster County Conservancy, Pennsylvania Master Naturalist, Hospice of Lancaster County, Soaring Spirits International, Angiosarcoma Awareness and Highmark Caring Place. Brenda won the 2009 Associated Content “Content of the Year” award, and in 2011 was named one of Wyndham Women’s “Women on their Way”. Most recently her love and loss memoir, Ebb from the Shoreline, won 1st Place Editor’s Choice in Nonfiction at the 2014 North American Book Awards. Sieglitz holds a degree in business and became a Pennsylvania Master Naturalist in 2015. In her spare time, she adores playing with her two nieces, going on family adventures with her husband, stepdaughter and son-in-law, hiking, camping and is working to complete her bucket list dream of visiting all National Park units. Sieglitz has been married to her best friend Dave since 2013 and continues to reside in Lancaster County with their two beagles Scotch and Fina.

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  1. Novella December 3, 2008

    those are HUGE BABY STEPS…..enjoy your vacation as much as you can…you should be so proud of yourself for even choosing to go-many would not be strong enough to even do something like this!!!!

    Enjoy the weather 🙂 as we freeze with the snow!!!!

  2. April December 3, 2008

    You should feel very proud of yourself. You have taken some major steps and for that I commend you! I don’t know that I could be as strong as you if I was in your position. I hope that you have a super vacation! Take care!

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