This is what I enjoy re-reading. In a way, Kevin saying something to me long before I needed him to, but something that has helped me a lot. This was in a conversation on facebook he had with a dear friend who had lost his wife:
Eventually you learn to cope with it and then you get to move on-almost like being reborn although not quite because it will always hurt. I know if I ever lost Brenda I would never be free of the hurt and I don’t know how anyone could if they really love someone. You pick yourself up the best you can and hopefully you can find someone special again when you are ready to. You shouldn’t feel guilty about it either because I know if I died I would certainly want Bren to find someone. Nobody should have to go through life alone.